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LOVE MAILS FROM FOREIGNER

 LOVE MAILS  FROM FOREIGNER

One day A guy added my FB and I confirmed him as my friend. I started my friendship with him which the love grew in my heart when I receive his email.We can call him Mic Dha. My relationship with Tej Dbr , my ex boy friend has to be broken. I made relationship with him 8 months. He is a nepalasee guy. Tej said Desima , we can not share heart , it belongs for somebody whom we love. You have to take a choice me and him. Real love and imagination ? Tej could feel my attitude to him. After I know about Mic , I felt boring with him. 24^th June Mic sent me an introduction email Hello Dear

Thanks for your mail.It is nice to meet you at FACEBOOK,i really appreciate this wonderful opportunity for us to get to know each other well and express Ourselves,I have exercised patience enough looking for my life partner,i can say i was so unlucky,i never believe i will meet my life partner after i separated from my ex girl friend 2yrs ago.i am kind,gentle,easygoing,with good sense of humors,hardworking,honest,understanding,caring,romantic.i like swimming,reading,shopping,watching movies.i am a naval architect and into contract supplying of marine tools,heavy duty machinery and farm tools.My Name is Sidney Dhalin from Ontario Canada.i am 30yrs old

Relationship is a gradual process;not something we rush into without impulsive thinking.What are your hobbies?tell me about your family.what kind of guy do you want to meet?what kind of job you do? i will stop here till i hear from your again.i wish you good luck.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

When I read his letter , I felt very happy as I have a dream to have a life partner , Foreigner , He has a white skin, tall , good looking, sharp nose and blue eyes. He is a responsibility person. I replied his letter. And I got his second letter at 26^th June 2012. Hello My Beloved

I was touched by your mail,i never believe i will meet someone like you again after my bad experience.how was your weekend dear?how are you doing today and how is your work going?i never heard of Toba Lake dear.i believe we are destined to be together then we can travel around the world when we are together.i can take care of you and your family dear.i am very sorry for the death of your parents dear. what did you do today?were you busy today dear?will you like to relocate to Canada in future? are you a christian dear?i am christian too,a roman catholic.I had My masters degree in naval architect and marine engineering. i can say you are hardworking dear.do you live alone in malaysia?what type of food do you like?do you like exercise and sports dear?i will stop here till i hear from you again.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

I don’t know what’s wrong with my feeling. I felt comfortable with this . When I met my ex boy friend I felt boring with him. I prefer spending my time and feeling for an imagination. I dream to have a western guy as my life partner. I don’t know what’s wrong in my mind at the time. I would like to shout “ Desima , please realize , it is just from internet, face book. It is not real. I got Mic’s email at 3^rd July 2012, before he was calling me. But I am a little confused. As I saw in my mobile phone the code of phone number is belongs to Malaysia. When I asked him . He informed me that he used International card. Here is his mail Hello My Sayang

It was nice to talk with you on phone,do you know you have a charming voice,can i call you MISS CHARMER?Darling i am sure and serious to take you as my lovely wife,i want to come and meet your family but is like i will meet you in malaysia then we travel to indonesia to meet your family ok.dear you are suitable for me.honey why you think i will not accept you?honey i have accepted you for what you are not for what you have?i am a christian too i believe you are God sent to me.i need someone humble,caring and loving.i don't search for any woman again since i contacted you.what did you do today at work?i will stop here till i hear from you again dear.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

I think sometimes. Is this guy serious with me ? Frankly speaking many foreign guys add my FB and sent message, but I just replied them. It can make my ex boy friend doesn’t like at last he cut our relationship. But I don’t care , in my opinion . I shall have an awasome guy , white , tall and rich. I sent email to Mic and asked him to visit me in Malaysia and he replied my email at 9^th July 2012. Hello Honey

I am happy to see your response.my heart is full happiness and joy.yes i will visit you then we can fix date to go and meet your family.honey i am worried and touched about your mail,they are treating you as an outcast,Oh my God.just bear it in mind that you will not work there again once we get married ok.i am planning for a better place for you in canada .

I don't smoke or involve myself in gambling,i don't drink too.i am a christian.honey you must be tired after working hard for the day.i pity you alot dear.what did you do today dear?when are they going to change your work from operator to another job?did you tell your family about me?i will begin now to process for your canada residence,i will ask my lawyer incharge then let you know ok.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

It is too fast , I feel. I replied his mail and told him about my job, if I take resign letter . I have to pay $500 US. The fifth letter made me fall in love to him . He sent it at 11^th July 2012 Hello My Darling

I am happy to see your response,also i feel better and so courageous on the content of your mail dear,i believe God has a purpose of bringing us together.dear i am planning to see if i can pay of your contract $500.why did you leave your job in Batam indonesia?are they treating you like a slave?honestly i am so worried about you now and not feeling happy the way they treat you dear.

I am the only child of my parents dear.i lost my dad when i was a kid,now mum is 81yrs old ,will be happy to see us get married,she will like to give us blessing.i pray that mum will still be alive till then ok.yes i agreed we get married in Indonesia OK,i really want to take care of you and your family ok.we are christian and must follow things accordingly dear.i don't smoke,drink or gambling.i am so caring,romantic and loving.i will send you my ticket this week ok so that you will know when i will be coming to meet you in malaysia .take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

When I read his mail . I felt in confused. It is too hard to believe. His mother is 81 years old meanwhile he is still 30 years old. He is the only child of his mother. But I replied his email. I said to him that I am very happy when he will come to visit me here. I asked him to bring a BlackBerry from Canada. At 19^th July 2012 he sent me a mail , I was very glad to read it . Hello Darling

I am always happy since i know,you have come into my life and changed me for good.i am fine dear,i came back from business meeting that is why i am replying you late.I am already feel with joy and happiness to see you as my future wife.honey once we stay together i will not allow you to work again ok,i can take care of you and make you happy.dear i understand your mail and i believe God want us to be together .

I am planning to visit you in Malaysia then we can see if we meet your family in Indonesia.i will come at the end of this July to meet you OK.don't worry i will buy you nice clothes and sexy dress when i come to visit you in malaysia ok. i promise you ,you are my  future wife dear. i will forever love you and make you happy honey.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

I replied his email again , and I really believed that he would come to visit me. When my ex boy friend asked to come back to my life . I refused him. At 23^rd July 2012, Mic sent me a mail Thanks for your mail,i hope you have a wonderful weekend.what did you eat today for lunch and breakfast?did you talk with your family today?how is the weather over there in Malaysia?I believe God has a plan for us to be together and have kids.i could not sleep here thinking about you dear.i wish you all the best of luck this new week.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

I replied his letter and I imagined with his story. At 31^st July 2012 , Mic called me and he informed me that he couldn’t come to meet me. He sent me a mail

Hello My Love

It was nice to talk with you dear,i am so happy to hear your voice,i am sorry for my late reply to your mail honey.i will be in malaysia on 12th August,i will call you once i reach ok.i will be coming with the money we will use to invest,do our marriage and buy house ok.honey i never lie to you,i would have be there with you but my mum was seriously sick so i am with her in the hospital in UK.i have reschedule my time of visit,it will be on 12th from UK ok.

honey i must come do not doubt about me ok.i have your blackberry and other gift i bought for you and your family.all the documents for coming to malaysia is completed. My job ,i am a naval architect,,it means i build ship and construct ship also supply heavy duty machine,marine tools and farm tools.i wish you all the best of luck dear.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Husband

Sidney

I am happy to read his email, and I replied and hope that his mother will be better soon so we can meet his mother in UK. It is a great hopeful. At 4^th August 2012 he sent me mail

Hello Honey

I have attached here my ticket itinary.i am happy we are getting married soon dear.i will meet your family when i come ok.thanks for praying for sick mum.darling i plan to take flight to KL malaysia then come to you ok.i always pray for us and for our marriage dear.i will forever love you

He sent me email and attached the Itinerary ticket , AirAsia flight . But I am not stupid, I asked my Engineers in office and the informed me that the AirAsia flight is suspended from UK – KL. I felt currious and I saw his ticket is unlogical. It told the flight just 4 hours from UK – KL. At last I search the AirAsia website and I chat with Customer Service . He answered there is not the AirAsia flight and he checked the booking number is unvalid. I felt dissapointed at the time. I never believe that he would cheat on me. At 7^th August 2012 Mic sent me a mail . It is the 10^th email and the lastest email in our relationship .

Hello Darling

How are you doing today and how is your health?what did you do today at work?i hope you are preparing to meet me this weekend.God will bless my travel to malaysia honey,thanks a lot for your prayer.my auntie will take care of my mum once i leave to malaysia.mum asked me about you yesterday,she is happy that we will visit her in UK.i wish you all the best of luck dear.take care and have a nice day

Your Husband

Sidney

12^th August 2012 , I went to church to follow worship and I pray to the Lord , if Mic comes please help him in his travel. 13^th August 2012 , I went to office and waited his calling. When I took sample from Wet Production, I put my mobile phone in my drawer and I saw there 3 times missed call. I tried calling the number. But it is not active. I felt very dissapointed , I want to have a life partner western guy who has white skin, tall, handsome, and rich. But it is only in my dream. I believe my story will be useful for us . Don’t directly believe love from internet. Because of it I have to lost someone who ever loved and care to me during 8 months. But it is a life story. No body is perfect . I am waiting your comment

Regards

Desima

12 August 2012, saya pergi beribadah saya berdoa di Chruch jika Mic pun datang Tuhan kiranya tolong perjalanan dia agar selamat . 13 August 2012 saya pergi office kilang dan tunggu call darinya. Ketika saya ambil sample dekat Production wet saya tinggal Handphone di drawer office ada nombor baru missed call 3 x , saya coba call nombor tapi tak aktif. Saya sedikit sedih lah , saya tunggu Mic kan call saya tapi tak ada. Saya kecewa , sebab saya dah bagi hati dan perasaan bahwa saya kan memiliki kekasih seorang berketurunan barat berkulit putih. Mudah mudahan kisah saya ini bermanfaat ya , supaya kita jangan langsung percaya dari pertemanan dunia maya. Akibat ini saya harus kehilangan orang yang pernah mencintai saya dan care dengan saya. Tapi itu adalah suatu pelajaran hidup. Semoga bermanfaat. Tak ada gading yang tak retak , boleh bagi comment ditunggu ya.

SURAT CINTA DARI ORANG ASING

Seorang pria Asing meng-add Fbku dan Aku Confirm as a friend. Dari sana perkenalanku terjadi dengan dia , dimana rasa cinta di dalam hatiku tumbuh sering dengan email yang kuterima. Sebut saja namanya Mic Dha. Hubungan percintaanku dengan Tej Dbr, seorang pria asing berkebangsaan Nepal akhirnya kandas setelah 8 bulan kami merajut cinta. Tej mengatakan, Desima hati tak boleh dibagi , itu hanya milik seseorang yang kita cintai saja. Kamu harus menentukan pilihan antara aku dan dia. Cinta nyata dan hayalan ? Tej merasakan perubahan sikapku kepadanya. Semenjak perkenalanku dengan Mic sikapku menjadi sangat dingin kepadanya. 24 Juni 2012 , Mic mengirimkan email perkenalan kepadaku dengan isi email : Hello Dear

Thanks for your mail.It is nice to meet you at FACEBOOK,i really appreciate this wonderful opportunity for us to get to know each other well and express Ourselves,I have exercised patience enough looking for my life partner,i can say i was so unlucky,i never believe i will meet my life partner after i separated from my ex girl friend 2yrs ago.i am kind,gentle,easygoing,with good sense of humors,hardworking,honest,understanding,caring,romantic.i like swimming,reading,shopping,watching movies.i am a naval architect and into contract supplying of marine tools,heavy duty machinery and farm tools.My Name is Sidney Dhalin from Ontario Canada.i am 30yrs old

Relationship is a gradual process;not something we rush into without impulsive thinking.What are your hobbies?tell me about your family.what kind of guy do you want to meet?what kind of job you do? i will stop here till i hear from your again.i wish you good luck.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

Ketika membaca surat Mic ini hati aku terasa hangat , sebab aku punya impian untuk mempunyai pasangan hidup seorang bangsa Asing berkulit putih. Aku pun membalas surat Mic itu , dengan bercerita tentang kehidupanku dan pekerjaan. Surat yang ke dua dari Mic pun aku terima 26 Juni 2012. Hello My Beloved

I was touched by your mail,i never believe i will meet someone like you again after my bad experience.how was your weekend dear?how are you doing today and how is your work going?i never heard of Toba Lake dear.i believe we are destined to be together then we can travel around the world when we are together.i can take care of you and your family dear.i am very sorry for the death of your parents dear. what did you do today?were you busy today dear?will you like to relocate to Canada in future? are you a christian dear?i am christian too,a roman catholic.I had My masters degree in naval architect and marine engineering. i can say you are hardworking dear.do you live alone in malaysia?what type of food do you like?do you like exercise and sports dear?i will stop here till i hear from you again.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

Aku tidak tahu hal apa yang kurasakan dengan lelaki yang belum pernah aku jumpai. Aku merasa nyaman dengan hal ini sehingga kalau aku jumpa mantan pacarku yang sekarang, aku merasa jenuh dengan dia, ada rasa boring . Aku lebih senang menghabiskan perasaan dan pikiran dengan angan – angan yang untuk mendapatkan pasangan hidup berketurunan barat. Aku pun membalas surat Mic dengan bagi tahu dia laki laki yang aku inginkan. Ntah apa yang merasuki pikiranku. Wajah tampannya dalam FB tak boleh kulupakan, Dalam hati aku pengen saja teriak, Desima sadar itu dunia maya yang tak akan pernah mungkin nyata. Surat Mic yang ke 3 pun aku terima 3 Juli 2012 ketika Dia meneleponku , tapi ada hal yang aneh dengan nomor telepon yang dia gunakan kode nomor Malaysia. Ketika aku menanyakan kepadanya dia menjawab bahwa dia menggunakan International Card. Hello My Sayang

It was nice to talk with you on phone,do you know you have a charming voice,can i call you MISS CHARMER?Darling i am sure and serious to take you as my lovely wife,i want to come and meet your family but is like i will meet you in malaysia then we travel to indonesia to meet your family ok.dear you are suitable for me.honey why you think i will not accept you?honey i have accepted you for what you are not for what you have?i am a christian too i believe you are God sent to me.i need someone humble,caring and loving.i don't search for any woman again since i contacted you.what did you do today at work?i will stop here till i hear from you again dear.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

Terkadang aku berpikir apa laki laki ini memang serius. Jujur aja sudah begitu banyak laki laki asing yang add fb aku lalu hantar message ke email, fb bahkan call tapi itu hanya beberapa lama sahaja. Tapi saya hanya merasa layan aja dulu , akibat perbuatan ku itu Mantan kekasihku jadi tak tahan dengan sikapku dan dia memutuskan hubungan kami. Aku tidak perduli karena pada saat itu yang ada dipikiranku , akhirnya aku akan mendapatkan laki laki asing berkulit putih. Aku pun menghantar email ke Mic dalam email itu aku memintanya untuk datang mengunjungiku di Malaysia dan Mic pun membalas email aku pada  9 Juli 2012 Hello Honey

I am happy to see your response.my heart is full happiness and joy.yes i will visit you then we can fix date to go and meet your family.honey i am worried and touched about your mail,they are treating you as an outcast,Oh my God.just bear it in mind that you will not work there again once we get married ok.i am planning for a better place for you in canada .

I don't smoke or involve myself in gambling,i don't drink too.i am a christian.honey you must be tired after working hard for the day.i pity you alot dear.what did you do today dear?when are they going to change your work from operator to another job?did you tell your family about me?i will begin now to process for your canada residence,i will ask my lawyer incharge then let you know ok.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

Aku merasa bingung dengan semuanya buat ku terlalu cepat untuk hal yang dia bagi tahu di email. Aku membalas emailnya dan membagi tahu dia tentang keluhan keluhanku diperkerjaan. Aku menulis dalam email bahwa aku harus membayar $500 US jika nak resign dari pekerjaan ini. Email Mic yang ke lima membuat aku semakin tergila gila dengan dia . Dia hantar email ke aku 11 Juli 2012. Hello My Darling

I am happy to see your response,also i feel better and so courageous on the content of your mail dear,i believe God has a purpose of bringing us together.dear i am planning to see if i can pay of your contract $500.why did you leave your job in Batam indonesia?are they treating you like a slave?honestly i am so worried about you now and not feeling happy the way they treat you dear.

I am the only child of my parents dear.i lost my dad when i was a kid,now mum is 81yrs old ,will be happy to see us get married,she will like to give us blessing.i pray that mum will still be alive till then ok.yes i agreed we get married in Indonesia OK,i really want to take care of you and your family ok.we are christian and must follow things accordingly dear.i don't smoke,drink or gambling.i am so caring,romantic and loving.i will send you my ticket this week ok so that you will know when i will be coming to meet you in malaysia .take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

Semasa saya baca email dia saya bingung dengan semua  Usia ibunya 81 tahun sementara dia 30 tahun dan merupakan anak satu satunya lagi . It is complicated to believe about that. Tapi saya reply juga email dia , saya cakap bahwa saya happy bila dia nak datang tuk jumpa saya. Saya request dia bila dia datang sudi bawa saya Black Berry dari Canada . 19 Juli 2012 dia hantar email ke saya yang membuat saya terasa fly Hello Darling

I am always happy since i know,you have come into my life and changed me for good.i am fine dear,i came back from business meeting that is why i am replying you late.I am already feel with joy and happiness to see you as my future wife.honey once we stay together i will not allow you to work again ok,i can take care of you and make you happy.dear i understand your mail and i believe God want us to be together .

I am planning to visit you in Malaysia then we can see if we meet your family in Indonesia.i will come at the end of this July to meet you OK.don't worry i will buy you nice clothes and sexy dress when i come to visit you in malaysia ok. i promise you ,you are my  future wife dear. i will forever love you and make you happy honey.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

Saya pun reply email dia bahwa saya bahagia sangat jika dia memang datang ke Malaysia tuk jumpa dengan saya, bahkan Bekas kekasih saya nak minta balik saya tak bagi peluang dengan  dia. 23 Juli 2012 , Mic hantar email Hello My Sayang

Thanks for your mail,i hope you have a wonderful weekend.what did you eat today for lunch and breakfast?did you talk with your family today?how is the weather over there in Malaysia?I believe God has a plan for us to be together and have kids.i could not sleep here thinking about you dear.i wish you all the best of luck this new week.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Love

Sidney

Saya pun reply dia punya email dan saya kebayang  dengan cerita dia. 31 Juli 2012 Mic called saya dan bagi tahu bahwa dia tak boleh datang tuk jumpa dengan saya sebab saya dah berharap dia kan datang tuk jumpa saya , dia pun hantar email ke saya Hello My Love

It was nice to talk with you dear,i am so happy to hear your voice,i am sorry for my late reply to your mail honey.i will be in malaysia on 12th August,i will call you once i reach ok.i will be coming with the money we will use to invest,do our marriage and buy house ok.honey i never lie to you,i would have be there with you but my mum was seriously sick so i am with her in the hospital in UK.i have reschedule my time of visit,it will be on 12th from UK ok.

honey i must come do not doubt about me ok.i have your blackberry and other gift i bought for you and your family.all the documents for coming to malaysia is completed. My job ,i am a naval architect,,it means i build ship and construct ship also supply heavy duty machine,marine tools and farm tools.i wish you all the best of luck dear.take very good care of yourself for me and have a wonderful day

Your Husband

Sidney

Saya happy sangat baca email dia itu. Saya pun reply email dia dan berharap bahwa ibunya akan sembuh so kita boleh tuk jumpa dengan ibunya di UK sungguh harapan yang luar biasa. 4 August 2012  Hello Honey

I have attached here my ticket itinary.i am happy we are getting married soon dear.i will meet your family when i come ok.thanks for praying for sick mum.darling i plan to take flight to KL malaysia then come to you ok.i always pray for us and for our marriage dear.i will forever love you

dia pun hantar email dekat saya dan attached dia punya ticket. Tapi saya tak terlalu bodoh sangat lah. Saya tanya sama Engineers dekat office tapi mereka cakap bahwa Air Asia tak ada flight dari UK - KL . Saya merasa currious dengan ticket yang dia attached sebab sedikit tak logic. Flight nya butuh masa 4 jam sahaja . Akhirnya saya cari situs air Asia dan chat dengan customer service nya untuk . Terjawab lah soalan saya bahwa tak ada flight dari UK  - KL by Air Asia. I feel dissapointed , aku tak pernah pikir dia akan tipu saya kah ?

7 August  Mic juga hantar email dengan saya itu lah the last mail at 10^th email.

Hello Darling

How are you doing today and how is your health?what did you do today at work?i hope you are preparing to meet me this weekend.God will bless my travel to malaysia honey,thanks a lot for your prayer.my auntie will take care of my mum once i leave to malaysia.mum asked me about you yesterday,she is happy that we will visit her in UK.i wish you all the best of luck dear.take care and have a nice day

Your Husband

Sidney

12 August 2012, saya pergi beribadah saya berdoa di Chruch jika Mic pun datang Tuhan kiranya tolong perjalanan dia agar selamat . 13 August 2012 saya pergi office kilang dan tunggu call darinya. Ketika saya ambil sample dekat Production wet saya tinggal Handphone di drawer office ada nombor baru missed call 3 x , saya coba call nombor tapi tak aktif. Saya sedikit sedih lah , saya tunggu Mic kan call saya tapi tak ada. Saya kecewa , sebab saya dah bagi hati dan perasaan bahwa saya kan memiliki kekasih seorang berketurunan barat berkulit putih. Mudah mudahan kisah saya ini bermanfaat ya , supaya kita jangan langsung percaya dari pertemanan dunia maya. Akibat ini saya harus kehilangan orang yang pernah mencintai saya dan care dengan saya. Tapi itu adalah suatu pelajaran hidup. Semoga bermanfaat. Tak ada gading yang tak retak , boleh bagi comment ditunggu ya.

WHAT IS CREATIVE THINKING ?

Creativity is latent in almost everyone. In creativity the emotional and the non-rational parts of our mind are as important as the logical and the rational. Just as we can train our national and logical mind to work better by educating it, so we can train our non-rational mind to be more creative by practice and education.

Creativity is often sparked by problem solving. For the journalist, the problem is “How do I find stories that will excite readers or viewers and how do I present the story in a way that will attract them to buy my newspapers/broadcasts and enjoy the experience of reading to the end.”

One of the things that often blocks our creativity is our own inhibitions. Psychologists believe we have a built- in censor that limits the information we are prepared to accept from the preconscious in order to protect ourselves from being overwhelmed by the information we contain in our brain. Filters appropriate to our situation ensure appropriate recollection. If we are in a leisure situation, leisure links are used and work recollections are unwelcome. If we are at work we do the opposite. This could well be the reason why an idea will come to us out of context. We might have been wracking our brain to consider how to extend a particular story, but as soon as we settle into a different activity, socialising with friends of watching TV, the idea comes to us. It seems that during the incubation phase of the idea, because we have adjusted the parameters of the censor, an association that we otherwise would not have considered will be delivered to our subconscious and our conscious mind will suddenly recognise it as appropriate for the problem we were dealing with before.

The way we work and are trained often seems to limit creativity. We come to feare expressing the weird and unusual because of peer pressure. If we are concerned that others will laugh at our ideas, we will not put our ideas forward, and if we never put ideas forward, we will probably stop having them at all. Creativity, imagination and good ideas are essential for success, particularly in journalism, although of course none of these is any good unless supported by hard work. And creativity thinking is the hardest work of all, requiring intense discipline, concentration and planning.

Much of the creative thinking required of journalists is idea development. You’ve got a story idea but you need to develop it further – produce it as a series, perhaps, or build some background features. There are several techniques you can use.

Spider diagrams

These can be very useful for developing ideas. Write down the orginal idea and then spin out spider’s legs to new ideas which then themselves spin out new ideas and so on. The disadvantage of spider diagrams is that after a few spiders have been drawn it is tempting to end the process before all the elements are thought through and you need to “Beware the dangers of early commitment to an idea or strategy (Raudsepp 1971: 114). There is an example of a spider diagram in Figure 12.1. Here I have chosen the Queen Mother’s 100^th birthday and expanded out from there with a number of ideas, each of which has spawned new ideas. See how I’ve included the concept of past, present and future as these often help develop ideas. I’m sure you could continue to develop further ideas of your own.

Brainstorming

Brainstorming was invented by Edward de Bono and given substance in his book, Lateral Thinking (De Bono 1977). He says we should always challenge assumptions. We often say we can’t do something because that is the way it has always been. But technology can change things and what we want can change and that allows us to rethink and do the unthinkable. De Bono says we need to suspend judgement. Often we will discard an idea before we have thought it through because it sounds silly at first. Often developing the idea can change that view. Boring or cliched ideas might be safe, but challenging, unusual and exciting ideas are what newsdesks really want – and are prepared to pay for.

De Bono says that : “The four rules of brainstorming in a group are: (1) Adverse criticism is taboo; (2) freewheeling is welcomed; (3) quantity is wanted; and (4) combination and improvement are sought’ (Barron 1969; 132). Despite working best as a group activity, brainstorming can work even when you are on your own – provided you take it seriously and suspend judgement. You need to note down all your ideas in a formal session. In other words, you have to say to yourself that you will think about this idea for a solid ten minutes, writing down every idea you have. Ten minutes may not seem like a long time, but to concentrate on one idea for that length of time and brainstorm other ideas is very hard work. Ten minutes can seem like an age as you struggle to write down more and more bizarre ideas. But, provided you concentrate completely for this time you should come up with some excellent ideas based around the original spark to the story.

FOLLOWING UP A STORY

Once the initial story has been written that is not the end of it. Some stories obviously require following up. At the start of the Paddington rail crash for instance, it was clear that any reporter working on the story would be filing copy for each edition until the news editor decided otherwise and many reporters would have worked on nothing else for several weeks. Inevitably, though, the story would die away and the reporters were moved on to something else. In all such stories it is important to note likely key dates for follow ups in the diary. The anniversary and even ten – year anniversary are two obvious dates to pop into the diary for follow – up stories.

Thinking about the timeline in a story is a good way of developing further story ideas. What happened in the past to lead to this story? What is likely to happen in the future – what are the consequences? In the case of the Paddington rail crash this would lead to a series of features and new stories about the fitting (or non – fitting) of train safety devices, other train crashes and how they link to this crash, and whether the government, the rail companies and other associated authorities have done enough in the past to prevent such accidents. The future brings us stories about the inquiry, how the survivors are coping, campaigns to improve rail safety and the effect such a major disaster has had on those working for the emergency services. Just a quick glance at this list shows the wealth of good story material available after this one incident and helps explain why you read so much about the Paddington rail disaster, its causes and its effects.

Pictures

It is also important that a good reporter thinks of picture ideas. When working with photographers, it is important to fully brief them about the story on which you are working. Photographers are the experts when it comes to pictures, but they can only be as good as the brief they receive. It also does no harm to suggest ideas to the photograper, so it is important that you think of picture ideas while you are working on the story. Not only can you then see if the photographer agrees with your idea, but you can also pass on other picture ideas to the newsdesk so that library or archive pictures can be included in the final package.

Using library pictures can be extremely useful, but there are potential problems. If you get a chance, check your library’s picture file of the interviewer before you go on the interview. This means when you meet the person you can quickly tell if the photograph is recent or very dated. There is nothing worse than interviewing a fifty-year-old man about the death of his grandaughter in tragic circumstances and then illustrating it with a picture of a sneering twenty-two-year-old protester with long hair and wildly unfashionable clothes. Finding out before makes it easy to alert the picture desk, or at least gives you a chance to ask the interviewee for an up-to-date picture. On the other hand, interviewing a couple on their golden wedding and finding you have a picture of their marriage day fifty years before can add a charming memory to a feel – good story.

Freelances

Freelances have particular requirements when it comes to developing stories. Not only do they need to think of good ideas for stories in the first place, but they also need to consider where they are going to sell the story. Some freelances specialise in an area  of reporting and already have key markets linde up. This can be a good way to earn a freelance living. Perhaps you specialise in social work. This means finding news and feature stories in this field and sending them to the specialist publications often have specialist pages. The Guardian for instance has its weekly education supplement and the editor of this will publish appropriate education pieces and will also come to trust regular freelances with suitable expertise.

General freelances have more opportunities for a wider range of writing but will often have to deal with news editors they don’t know. Having written a story, it is even more important for such freelances to ensure that the story is written in a way that suits the market of the target paper, magazine or broadcast station. This could mean writing the same story in a dozen different ways. A woman protester fined for criminal damage after breaking into a local Army base and painting a tank bright pink in protest at arms sales to Indonesia would allow a good freelance to sell the basic news story to a number of outles – the BBC,all the nationals, the local dailies and some of the foreign agencies. An interview with the protester would also be of interest to some of the women’s agencies. An interview with the protester would also be of interest to some of the women’s magazines:’How I stood up to be counted of “Women in the front line”. Some alternative lifesyle magazines might also be interested in the story on the basis of why she did it. It’s probably stretching things a bit to try to sell the story to trade mags such as Paint World, but only because their budget’s not big enough to pay for ‘Dulux puts tank in the pink’. Stories about how she broke into an Army base or the practical problems of painting a tank might also appeal to some specialist mags (although probably too specialist to be able to pay much). They would need to be handled with care because of the security implications ,but it would certainly be possible to build the story into a  fun feature on ’Five crazy things to do after a night, of lager’for FHM or Loaded.

A different approach, a new intro and new writing style can change an idea radically enough to allow the thinking freelance to sell the same basic story to a dozen different markets.

MEMBANGUN RASA PERCAYA DIRI

MEMBANGUN RASA PERCAYA DIRI

Ditulis Oleh : Desima Siahaan , Pengajar Gemilang Education Centre Medan

Sebab Aku ini mengetahui rancangan-rancangan apa yang ada pada-Ku mengenai kamu, demikianlah firman TUHAN, yaitu rancangan damai sejahtera dan bukan rancangan kecelakaan, untuk memberikan kepadamu hari depan yang penuh harapan (YEREMIA 29 : 11)

Sering kita mengatakan aku tidak bisa melakukannya , sehingga pasti kita tidak bisa. Seringkali kita merasa tidak pantas mencintai sehingga itu menghambat cinta yang tumbuh di hati kita. Juga seorang pengajar yang mengatakan aku tidak mampu mengajar mereka , sehingga ketika mengajar rasa nervous itu membatasinya untuk menyampaikan ilmu yang dia miliki.

Percaya diri dua kata yang sangat bermakna dalam menjalani hidup ini. Pikirkanlah hal yang positif maka semua hasil pasti positif. Jika kita berpikir berani, pasti kita akan berani. Jika kita berpikir menang , pasti kita akan menang. Bukankah sukses itu dimulai dari dalam diri. Semua itu berawal dari apa yang kita pikirkan. Jika kita ingin menanjak tinggi , kita akan berdoa dan berusaha untuk mewujudkannya. Percaya diri adalah kemampuan memandang dan menerima diri apa adanya , membiasakan diri mengucap syukur dalam segala perkara dan keadaan. Rasa percaya diri dapat meyakinkan orang lain , mengurangi rasa takut , menambah keberanian dan menambah daya tarik. Bagaimanakah meningkatkan rasa percaya diri itu ?

a. Berpikir dan berkatalah tentang hal – hal yang positif.

Firman Tuhan berkata dalam Filipi 4 : 8 “ Jadi akhirnya saudara – saudara semua yang benar, semua yang mulia , semua yang adil , semua yang suci , semua yang manis , semua yang sedap didengar , semua yang disebut kebajikan dan patut dipuji, pikirkanlah semuanya itu. Sering kita dipengaruhi pikiran negatif. Katakanlah dalam hati Tuhan Yesus tolong tinggallah dalam hati dan pikiranku disetiap hari – hariku, Sebagai pengajar komputer , saya selalu berpikir bagaimana membuat peserta didik bisa menerima yang saya ajarkan. Saya selalu berusaha mencari sesuatu yang baru mengenai program yang akan dibahas , banyak berlatih dan membaca buku – buku praktikum. Dengan begitu saya tampil lebih percaya diri dalam mengajar.

b. Jangan takut dan beranilah

Ketakutan akan menghilangkan nilai terbesar dalam hidup yaitu percaya diri. Ketika ibu saya kembali ke pangkuan Allah Bapa saya sedikit takut dan khawatir akan kelanjutan perkuliahan saya dan kakak saya di Sekolah Bibelvrow. Tapi rasa takut itu saya hilangkan dengan betul – betul menyerahkan diri kepada Tuhan. Puji Tuhan Juli 2010 kakak saya akan wisuda dan oktober 2010 saya akan menyelesaikan Diploma – 3 Komputer. Jadi inti semuanya penyerahan dirikan ? sehingga Tuhan akan turun tangan dalam menyelesaikan semuanya.

c. Tetap semangat karena hidup ini adalah anugrah

Firman Tuhan berkata “Sebab itu janganlah kamu kuatir akan hari besok, karena hari besok mempunyai kesusahannya sendiri. Kesusahan sehari cukuplah untuk sehari." (Matius 6 : 34). Selesai bercerita tentang firman Tuhan kepada adik – adik sekolah minggu. Saya ditegor senior dan mengatakan cerita saya kurang menyenangkan. Tapi dengan tegoran itu saya tetap semangat untuk lebih persiapan lagi membawakan cerita ke waktu berikutnya. Sesungguhnya semangat membuat kepribadian hidup menghasilkan kekuatan – kekuatan yang aktif. Semangat bisa dikatakan sebagai iman yang dikobarkan , dan merupakan anugrah Allah yang terbesar.

d. Milikilah mental yang positif

      Pikirkan dan renungkanlah terlebih dahulu sebelum melakukan apapun.

      Bertindak positif sebab itu akan menanamkan sikap bagaimana memecahkan masalah secara berhasil. Dengan bertindak positif tidak akan membuang waktu dengan pengandaian yang rapuh.

      Yakinkan  diri kita bahwa kita bisa . Hal ini akan sangat membantu kehidupan banyak orang percaya untuk meninggalkan keraguan apapun. Percayakan diri bahwa dengan pertolongan Allah segala masalah dapat teratasi. Firman Tuhan berkata “Mintalah, maka akan diberikan kepadamu; carilah, maka kamu akan mendapat; ketoklah, maka pintu akan dibukakan bagimu” (Matius 7 : 7).  Dan “ II Timoteus 1 : 7 Sebab Allah memberikan kepada kita bukan roh ketakutan, melainkan roh yang membangkitkan kekuatan, kasih dan ketertiban.

e. Yakinkan diri untuk berubah lebih baik

Banyak hal dalam kehidupan kita yang perlu diubah. Adanya unsur – unsur yang bertentangan dalam kepribadian kita yang memberikan kegagalan dalam cita – cita yang kita raih. Ada sifat – sifat yang menjengkelkan , kelemahan yang terus memperbudak kita , pengalaman masa lalu yang sering menghantui. Tapi yakinlah bahwa ada kekuatan yang mengubah kita yaitu hiduplah di dalam Yesus.

Ada 10 hal yang dapat membantu meningkatkan rasa percaya diri kita.

1. Cinta , perasaan khusus yang membuat hidup kita lebih terasa hangat dan senang.

2. Hormat , hargailah orang lain seperti halnya kita juga ingin diperlakukan demikian.

3. Penghargaan , hal yang besar dari semua kebaikan , ingatlah bahwa kehidupan

   selalu berakhir.

4. Kegembiraan , wajah tersenyum yang menunjukkan kesenangan penuh di setiap

   waktu.

5. Pengampunan , kemampuan membiarkan semua berlalu tanpa kemarahan.

6. Rasa berbagi , kemampuan untuk mengutarakan isi hati untuk mendapatkan solusi.

7. Kejujuran , hal yang selalu menceritakan kebenaran.

8. Integritas , kemurnian dalam melakukan kebenaran apapun.

9. Rasa haru , perasaan penting untuk orang lain ketika mereka terluka.

10. Kedamaian yang akan menjadi hadiah dari semua dan menghasilkan rasa percaya

    diri yang tinggi.

Sesungguhnya membangun rasa percaya diri itu amat mudah bukan? Dengan menyadari bahwa kekuatan untuk mengubah kehidupan kita adalah iman percaya kepada Kristus. Maju dan melangkahlah dan biarkan Allah bertindak. Praktekkan kasih dan keinginan baik terhadap orang lain , sehingga kita akan memiliki masa depan yang penuh harapan. Terimakasih Tuhan Yesus memberkati.

Pokok Untuk Direnungkan : Rasa  percaya diri , mempermudah kita untuk

                                              mewujudkan harapan dan impian kita.

Ayat Untuk diingat      : Diberkatilah orang yang mengandalkan TUHAN, yang 

                            menaruh harapannya pada TUHAN. YEREMIA 17 : 7.

Pertanyaan Untuk Dipikirkan : Apakah  aku mampu dan percaya diri ketika diberikan kesempatan untuk memimpin khususnya hal dalam berdoa disuatu acara tertentu?

Doa : Bapa yang baik , terimakasih karena aku telah mengetahui apa arti dari rasa percaya diri ya Tuhan. Semoga di setiap hari – hariku aku lebih percaya diri untuk melakukan hal – hal yang positif untuk mewujudkan harapan dan cita – citaku dengan iman dalam Kristus Yesus. Amin.